So, you’re a man, and you’re married. Congratulations! Being married can be awesome and liberating. You get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend and someone who complements you completely – it’s tremendous.
The thing about marriage is that it actually provides a framework for you to thrive and flourish, to become your true self rather than someone who is just angling for another score.
But even though marriage is a time for you to feel free, there are a few things that married men should never do. Here are four of them.
1) Get emotionally vulnerable with a member of the opposite sex
Whether you’re unburdening yourself or whether they’re pouring out their heart to you, this is just a bad idea. Look, we all want to be the person who is kind and loving and who is “there” for those in need. And that’s a great person to be!
Just don’t be that person for a member of the opposite sex. Especially if it’s just the two of you.
Look, we’re not afraid of a man being friends or even being close with a woman that he’s not married to. But we also understand the realities of the way the human heart works, and we know that emotional vulnerability can wind up leading either – or both – of you to places you shouldn’t be going.
Someone else can be there for them. Or there for you. It’s not worth it.
2) Keep score
Hey, you want to know a great way to kill intimacy with your wife? Try keeping score!
When you get into a heated conversation (i.e. argument), don’t try to find resolution – just try to win. When your wife asks you to do something for her, remember it so you can use it later to force her to do something for you.
Oh, and when it comes to sex, definitely keep track of who initiates and when and then take it personally.
Of course we’re being sarcastic here. Keeping score is great when you’re playing actual games, but a terrible thing to do in marriage. You and your spouse are in this together, meaning you either both win or you both lose. Grow up.
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SOURCE: XXXChurch.com
Craig Gross